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Saturday, August 18, 2012

The Opposite of Fear

The opposite of fear is love. And most of us know fear, as an acronym, spells False Expectations Appearing Real. Yet how many of us are paralyzed by it? How many of us allow it to creep into our crawl and camp out for way too long? Heck, how many of us are simply afraid of it?

Maybe you're one of the lucky few who are fearless.

Or maybe you don't pay attention to it.

Maybe you're in denial that it has any play in your life.

Regardless of your specific relationship with fear, here's my little tip to zap it, the moment you feel it:

Acknowledge that it exists and understand why.
Are you afraid of the exam results, even though you know you studied very hard?
Is it of receiving yet another rejection slip for the umpteenth time from an agent or  publisher?
Or the boss coming down on you for missing a deadline?

Okay, so now you've acknowledged it, you know where it coming from the last step is to zap it!

Address the issue with love. Believe in mankind and the goodness of all motivation. Know that the teacher wants the student to pass, wants the good student to do well. The agent or publisher is looking for talent that's going to sell. The boss wants his employee happy and thereby productive.

So communicate the person that may be related to the situation via email, calling, visiting, whatever it takes, and communicate your concern with love knowing they have the best interests of all at heart. Lastly, let the cards fall where they may.

The right thing comes to you when it's time. Believe that and there's no more fear.


Ciao for now.


  1. "The oppositive of fear is love," really caught my eye, as we generally hear the opposite of love is hate (each an intense passion).

    Reading your post, the examples, your premise makes sense. I will remember your words, the comparison, when I am forced to engage that which I fear ~ and respond with love.

    Thank You ^_^

  2. Thanks for the follow. I'm following your wordpress blog so when you post I'll know. :)
    Love is really the answer to all dilemmas.

  3. Your approach is certainly a lot more productive than just sitting around thinking about the problem.

    1. Yes and its the thinking about it that gets us in trouble so we have to forge forth.