Lifelong Question ... For Me, At Least
However if you've experienced or are experiencing the following you may relate:
Career Crisis: Circumstances beyond someone's control that causes a sudden job loss or a demotion can have a negative affect on a person's metal state and their self-confidence. However, time gives a person tremendous advantage because they can look back on their life, with pride, and review what they've already accomplished. A younger person doesn't know what they're capable of, yet but, hopefully, their determination and inherent drive leads them to goal achievement.
If you've had the good fortune to be successful in your career, received rewards both financial and intellectual, then you've established a track record. That track record will repeat itself. Manifest itself again. Have faith in yourself. You're the only person that can. No one can give that to you. Give it to yourself.
If you're in a rift or otherwise haven't yet achieved something you set out for yourself ---don't give up. Know that you will accomplish your dreams .... as you have before.
Failed Relationship: As for relationships ... if you've made poor decisions before, unfortunately unless you fix the problem inside yourself that attracts the wrong kind, you will again. There are numerous books that can help you decipher whether or not someone is right for you. My all time favorite is by Women Who Love Too Much by Robin Norwood. Other books written by Ken Keyes, namely The Seven Keys to Happiness and Stanton Peel, namely Love & Addiction can also help.
Modern-day psychologists say that you should be able to size up a potential mate and make a decision about whether or not they are right for you within the first thirty minutes of meeting them. Don't sell yourself short due to loneliness or fear of not finding a mate.
If you don't listen to your inner voice your desperation can lead you to desperate actions and you will likely find yourself in yet another loosing situation. If you've recently broken up with someone, embrace the time you have to get reacquainted with you. Who are you? Where do you see yourself going in life? What qualities need to exist in your mate to compliment your life, to enhance the quality of your life to provide the perfect breeding grounds to achieve your personal best? Because the wrong person can sabotage your every dream. Thus you'd been better off by yourself.
I believe that we learn about ourselves through the interpersonal relationships we encounter. Each "failed" relationship isn't really a failure but an opportunity for growth. When people can't grow together or take away from each others path of success ... it may be time to go your separate ways. Sometimes working through the difficulties brings you closer together. Sometimes it's the end. But, always, you have yourself. Therefore be true to thyself ....at whatever cost it is ....for your own highest self.
Namaste.
